The Hard Choice

A lot of people wonder why it is that they are always getting hurt. They ask themselves why fate has been cruel and has thrown them a destiny full of pain and sorrow. There’s only one answer to this soliloquy-type question. The reason that we get hurt is because of that one choice that we make. This is the one choice that we seem to forget we made on our own free will after someone has shattered our hearts into thousands of tiny pieces.

We make a choice to be with someone, and sometimes it’s not a popular choice. It’s not a popular choice with family, and friends and sometimes even your own conscience and yet, this is the choice we decide to make. What I’m talking about is the leap of faith we take when we decide that we are going to invest our whole into one person. Most of the time, deep inside we know that this person is not going to do us any good and yet, we dive into love obscurity. We get lost in the many moments that make it seem like everything is perfect and nothing could go wrong. Then one day, as per the many predictions of your friends, family and your own head, the worst happens. You get hurt.

Though it may be true that it was the person who hurt you or did the deed that broke your heart, but in essence, the reason you got hurt was because of the choice that you made. We are the ones who decide to be in a relationship with another person with no assurance that it will lead to happy moments toting a picnic basket skipping under the warm rays of the summer sun. We may not realize it at the time, but all those giddy moments and the butterflies in the stomach manifest into a feeling of utter emptiness.

We choose to be in them because we want to feel that feeling; the feeling of falling in love. And in those moments, we ignore the signs around us that inform us of the dangers that we will soon encounter. I may sound like a bitter broken-hearted pessimist, but I’m just giving you the harsh truth. We need to hear it as often as possible.

This is a warning for those who are afraid of getting hurt. You have to make a choice. Either you decide that you are willing to risk getting hurt to experience those “moments” of love OR you decide to pass on what could be the love of your life to salvage your mending heart.

I’m not telling anyone to choose the latter and pass on that potential true love, but rather make sure that you are prepared once you dive into that decision and know that it can go either way. We need to be prepared and we need to be ready if and when the time comes that we are going to get hurt.

Personally, I choose to take that dive. You never know where you’re going to end up. J